Yesterday our dog Shadrach was lethargic, depressed and did not look like he felt good. Being very concerned, I spent some extra time with him last night and after a short time of playing and pets, lo and behold he was no longer lethargic at all. As it turned out, all he wanted was some attention and his little world turned from darkness to light in a few minutes.
Since then, I have thought about how true this is with all of us. God designed us to crave attention and when we are deprived of it we tend to retreat within ourselves, grow pensive and sullen. From the moment we enter this life we are 100% dependent upon the love and nourishment of our mother to survive. As we grow older, we thrive through the love of our families and friends. Take that love away and we first get grouchy, then we get depressed and finally we get despondent.
It takes work to make the time to fellowship with those we care about. Time constraints, pressures of life and a million other issues compete for the few minutes or hours we have available to share our heart, time and attention. When the pressures of this life win out, those we truly love suffer the consequence of being left out, left behind or even forgotten.
Love dictates that we make the time for those who are most important to us. Love dictates that we go that extra mile to make sure our spouse, children, parents and friends know that we have not forgotten about them, still love them and miss them if we are busy or tired. A few minutes of quality time is usually all it takes for someone to know they are still important to us.
How do friends, siblings or couples grow apart? It happens when life gets in the way of love. It happens when the pressures of living deprive us of our ability to give of ourselves. It happens when we become too busy or tired to care about those most important to us.
Make no mistake about it. Love takes work and sometimes very hard work. It takes work to forgive, look past someone’s shortcomings and not take offense at something someone says or does. It takes work to make and take the time to communicate and share of all that is within our hearts. It takes work to get on the phone and talk to someone, get on the computer and email someone or get together with someone to discuss life over lunch.
Laziness, fatigue and the burdens brought on by pressure conspire together to prevent us from manifesting the love of God. Although it is hard work and not what we want to do at times, when we rise above these things and make the time to communicate and share fully of ourselves; we can stay close to those we love and many times “make someone’s day”.